For those dealing with adversity

  • fishinallday
    Montrose Mn
    Posts: 2101

    OK…. I’m not a literary genius. And my spelling usually sucks. So I hope this comes across the way I intended it.

    As of today I am 10 years clean and writing this too make sure that anyone in the same situation knows there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

    10 Years ago I was in a situation with a few choices. They were as follows. Live or Die, wind up in Jail or stay free, be a decent human being or a leach on society.

    When I look back at these choices they seem to be no brainers. But at 22 years old all I saw was girls and fun. What tipped me over the edge was something my mother used to ask when I was in trouble. “Was that how we raised you?” Now I heard this over and over as a kid. But it took some startling words from a Sheriff in Brainerd for me to realize what they meant. (We won’t get into those words though.) When I woke up the morning of Sept. 4th all I could hear was my mother and all I could do was cry. I hated the man I had become.

    So there’s the back ground. Now here’s why I’m writing this. As I made the move to clean up my life it was hell. I had withdrawals and the shakes. For a man that made a living with his hands neither of these were a good situation. I was in the midst of loosing what I thought were my friends and my lively hood to boot. The night mare I was living at the time was incredible. Had it not been for family and the words of “wisdom” given to me by that Sherriff I would have hit the bottle within days. Then one day I realized that the thoughts of going to the bar had gone from every 5 minutes to every hour, and then it was 5 hours, then 10. Eventually I found my self not wanting to go very often. 10 years later I still want to drink. But I don’t think about it very often. My “Thirsty Days” only seem to show up a few times a year now. It’s been a struggle getting here, but it’s been worth it.

    When I started this journey I lived in an apartment, had no money, bad credit, I was a liar, and those that I thought were friends weren’t. Now I have a home, wife, 2 beautiful daughters and a business. I can’t imagine where I would be if I hadn’t made the change. The moral is this. “If it’s easy it’s not worth doing.” This goes for almost any struggle that we face day to day. So don’t just look at this post as another drunk telling me how he kicked the hootch. If you struggle in the end it WILL be worth doing.

    If there is anyone out there that needs to leverage my experiences please shoot me a PM. My life was given back too me by a series of people and events that allowed me to succeed. If I can repay this in any way to someone else please don’t hesitate to ask.

    Again… I hope this reads as someone sharing there experiences. That is the way I intended it.

    God bless and thank you for taking the time.


    Posts: 3199

    Congrats on your recovering!!

    I like your “pay it forward” mentality.



    Hastings/Isle MN
    Posts: 12318

    Congrats on your sobriety! That is a great message there! Just like your parents raised you no doubt!

    Sioux City IA
    Posts: 3974

    That goes to show you how much a real man you have become, your not just a father, you are daddy.

    Brian Hoffies
    Land of 10,000 taxes, potholes & the politically correct.
    Posts: 6843

    Congrats! Job well done.

    If I might add something. The day you decided to change your life was the day you went from being a kid to a man.A man faces the future and tackles responsibility. A kid runs from the past with no intent of having a future.

    Once again, great job!

    Mantorville, MN
    Posts: 3668

    Sounds like your parents didn’t raise such a bad guy after all

    Congrats on getting and staying clean

    Rochester Mn
    Posts: 1908

    Congrats Chris!

    Montrose Mn
    Posts: 2101

    Thanks to everyone. It’s amasing where life will lead you if you allow it to.

    predator2 jr
    Posts: 448

    congrats i am going on 3 years from meth and that was hell i had to pretty much start all over i am working at making my life better now on i have 2 kids and one was born one yera after i got sober and it helps to think that if i go back to that stuff i will lose them and thats one thing i couldn’t handle its still tuff at times but no i have other addictions as in hunting and fishing

    Posts: 1562

    Congrats, seems you learned a precious lesson that few grasp. Good job and keep up the good work.


    Tom Sawvell
    Posts: 9559

    Not at all unfamiliar territory. 19+ years here. I love it now….all of it!

    Congrats on a wonderful time in your life. I can tell you that the light, to which you refer, is always bright.

    Cedar Rapids, Iowa
    Posts: 7727

    I partied my fair share too. The thing I think now is theres nothing wrong at all with doing it naturally and without a drug of any kind. Being normal is the way to be, be normal-see and think normal.

    Posts: 167

    Been 28 years since I have had a drink.Your words were find.Wish my mom coul see me now.God bless you.ICE JOHN

    Posts: 780

    Congrats man, that’s a huge achievement!!

    Crystal, MN
    Posts: 683

    CONGRATS May you “keep it simple”. Thanks for your story, hope it helps others out there that think there is no help for them. I know from family members how tough it is. I am a nondrinker from seeing what it does to a person, but not everyone is that strong. Stay strong

    Blaine, MN
    Posts: 5432

    Congratulations Chriss

    That is a huge accomplishment

    I still wish that that “sheriff” would have kicked your though
    Now lets celebrate your sobriety and birthday by going fishing, my treat, you deserve it

    Upper Midwest
    Posts: 1531

    congrats Chriss..its a daily struggle but we can do it with God’s help and grace.. I stopped drinking, per se’ in May of 76.. and I am a better man for it..

    keep up the good work.

    you do your best and God will do the rest..

    Posts: 460

    Congratulations Chriss, Its been 17 years for me, 22 for my wife.

    Rochester, Minnesota
    Posts: 12607

    Congrats Chris and Happy Birthday.

    Fulton County, Illinois
    Posts: 1108

    Congrats Chris!!!!!!!

    Happy B-Day as well.

    Brad Juaire
    Maple Grove, MN
    Posts: 6101

    Thank you Chris for sharing your story. You proved it’s not a question of whether you can or you can’t….Either you will or you won’t…

    I wish you continued success!

    Montrose Mn
    Posts: 2101

    Thank you everyone. It always amases me how many of “US” there are.

    Slider, I wasn’t worried about a whoopin. I know his kid. The kids a big sissy And he aint much too look at.

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